Ahh, love is my favorite topic so I’ll get right into it. As most of you know, my feng shui recommendations are never as simple as suggesting you add some pink flowers in the relationship corner of your home and then wait for love to appear in your life. It’s much more. It’s closely examining your surroundings and seeing if they are congruent with your relationship goals. It’s digging deeper within yourself and getting to the core issues that might be holding you back and then seeing how these exact issues are physically manifesting in your environment. It’s making changes with intention. It’s rolling up your sleeves and doing the work on yourself and space so you can be the best that you can be in a relationship. This is divided into two sections: Looking To Get Into A Relationship and Creating An Environment That Supports Your Relationship. Here we go:
The Best Holistic Feng Shui Tip For Bringing In A Relationship Into Your Life
Create space for a potential partner. Even if you don’t have a single date lined up – act as if the love of your life is about to move in. Make room in the closet, in a junk drawer, in a medicine cabinet – everywhere you can possible think. Even in the refrigerator. You do this for two reasons:
First, the physical act of making space for your mate kick starts the mental and emotional into relationship gear. For some people this is very hard to do either because they realize they are “not ready” for a relationship, (maybe they have self doubts, low self esteem, commitment issues, etc.) or making a change in their life is scary and this process makes them feel vulnerable. Staying in your comfort zone feels safe. Making changes in your space with intention for a personal goal can bring up fears. It’s important that as you go through this de-cluttering process you are holding a clear visualization of the positive outcome you desire. As you get rid of the stuff you no longer need, attach an unfavorable attribute about yourself that you know would not serve you well in a future relationship. For example, the big box of dusty collectibles and items in disrepair that you never really liked anyway can represent your tendency to self-sabotage in love. Let it go. Release it.
The second reason you make room is that if your dream date were to come into your space, they would subconsciously feel like there was not enough room for them in your life. If every nook and cranny is jam packed with stuff, it adds an additional layer that insulates you and keeps a healthy relationship at bay. Clear the channels – both within and in your space – and love has a greater chance of taking hold.
The Best Holistic Feng Shui Tips For Maintaining A Healthy, Loving Relationship
For established couples that are living together, there are two things you can do to enhance your relationship and create a healthy, supportive environment that allows the best to unfold. The first is an unconventional tip that has not necessarily been present in my feng shui studies, but something that I have continuously noticed in hundreds of homes over the last fourteen years. Its night stands. Yep. Those bedside tables are like the energetic anchors of balance and unknowingly symbolize the basic dynamics of your relationship. 
They can be perfectly matched or somewhat different but the rule of thumb is that they be equal in height and quality. When there is a tall dresser being used as a nightstand and it towers over one side and the other side has a regular sized one, the person who has the much larger piece usually dominates the relationship. On the other hand, one client of mine had a tiny, dilapidated table (missing a leg) for her boyfriend’s side and hers was a beautiful, solid oak table with flowers, lighting and water. When I pointed out the imbalance, she wasn’t surprised. “My boyfriend feels inferior in our relationship,” she said and it was an issue that they were working on. Examine and adjust these symbolic items and make sure that yours are comparable and that they equally showcase each person in the best way.
My next tip is to make sure that there is an equal voice present in the home for each person. It’s common for one half of the couple to be more interested in the design and style of the home – and that’s okay. If one person wants to take over decorating, just make sure that the other is being asked along the way for input. And if all the decorating choices are coming from one person, make sure that the other has an area that represents them (a wall of fame, a craft room, a “man cave” or a work space, etc.). Unchecked, a home that heralds only one person can have a profound effect on the sense of balance and equality in the relationship. Ideally you want to create a home that tells both of your stories, that represents your love for one another and creates a space for you both to grow together.
Happy Valentines Day, Lovers!
xo
